If Putin was my father
Little Monday tips on how to make it through one more week (well, did not make it on Monday, but anyway)
Some people are just toxic. No matter how much you love them or are connected to them, those people damage you, and most likely will keep doing the same no matter what.
True, that hurts. Sometimes it's really heartbreaking to be the one, who deliberately chooses their surroundings, giving zero duck about other people's or society's expectations. Yes, those toxic, harming people can be, too, your brothers or sisters, parents or best friends, or spouses. Yes, you are supposed to love and embrace them, but the thing is that they are supposed to love and be there for you, too. And what if they don't and hurt you instead, but you still feel that you have to keep them around and let them access your vulnerable points?
Unfortunately, letting toxic people go can be hard, but it's healthy too. It's your right and your duty – to protect yourself and what's yours.
“If a person disregards your feelings, ignores your boundaries, and continues to treat you in a harmful way, they need to go.” – Daniell Koepke writes. Her poetry book Daring to take up space dragged my attention once, as it would be a good name for some self-help nonfiction, but yup, that was poetry. Anyway, see, there’s no “but” in this sentence, toxic people just do need to go. But then when it comes to real life, we often find excuses, feeling like we are obliged to keep giving those people the possibility to hurt us because they are... what? Childhood friends or relatives, supported us once a long time ago, or even are paying our bills? Because it gonna be not polite, not nice, not acceptable to tell them off?
And so here I am, after a recent break-up with my